The world is round and the place which may seem like the end, may also be the beginning. Ivy Baker Priest, US
What has been the hardest part of this transition for you?
Two aspects: the rigors of the physical move and the mental acceptance of having to say goodbye to people you
love. The packing up of home and office left me with a feeling of not belonging, of losing my support. I recognised that I would no longer be able to call on those I knew were the right resource to assist or advise me; and
those people knew me. I had to tell myself: “The family is there (in Australia); this is what you have worked for”.
What has been the most exciting about this move?
Right now, Bev and I are experiencing too much trepidation to use the word ‘exciting’. May I use the word anticipation instead? Certainly, we are so looking forward to being with our family and being able to be a more significant part of their daily lives. Nevertheless, we still need to overcome our fears, largely about coping mechanisms and making new friends. We are too attached still.
A week or so ago, I experienced a strange feeling of being foreign, out of place. This had such a physical outworking that I went to my doctor, who assured me that all my vital signs were normal … I was simply having an anxiety attack. One pill later and I felt much better, and that feeling is growing as we get closer to our move.
What has been unexpected about all this preparation?
A number of clients have emailed or called me, saying that they have heard that I am leaving, or letting me know that they will or will not be attending my farewell. From the numerous messages, I have come to realise that I have had an impact in a number of lives. I had no idea of having made such a difference. It is simply the way we worked – if you were my client, whether you had R100 or R10 million, I did my very best for you.
To be honest, I resisted the idea of a farewell. Now I appreciate what I did not at the time – it is not me who needs to celebration, but my clients and friends and colleagues who need the closure, the chance to say goodbye.