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The Purpose Paradox: meaning in suffering

At Chartered Wealth we understand that, for most of us, life is a delicate balance of joy and sorrow, pain and pleasure, hope and disappointment.

If life has purpose, then surely there is purpose in suffering and dying.

At Legacy & Trust, we naturally encounter loss and grief, as we draft Wills and settle Estates. And through this service, we have discovered a new way to serve our clients – guiding them through grief to recovery.

From resilience to fulfilment

Recovery coaching encourages us to find meaning despite the suffering and trauma we may experience. A Recovery Coach works with those recovering from a medical crisis or the loss of their significant others to death.

American therapist and author, Virginia Satir, says: “Life is not what it is supposed to be. It’s what it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference”.

Through meaning-oriented intentional care, recovery coaching supports good mental health at every stage of life, from childhood and adolescence through adulthood.

According to the World Health Organization, mental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and behave, and influences how we handle stress, make choices, and form and maintain good relationships.

In the words of Medical Coach, Shiri Ben-Arzi, “to rise above circumstances is resilience, but to live beyond our circumstances is fulfillment”.

Serving our clients

We at Legacy & Trust have partnered with Lee-Anne van Rooyen, a practising organisational psychologist and coach. Having been in private practice for over 13 years, Lee-Anne has worked with many people to live meaningful and fulfilling lives despite pain and loss.

A cancer-survivor client wrote of her coaching sessions: “You have helped me through the darkest time of my life – to ground myself, access my own resources and make better quality decisions. I feel more empowered and simply so much happier every day because of our sessions. I’m glad to be alive”.

If you are, or a loved one is, recovering from a medical crisis, or grieving the loss of your significant other, we invite you to contact us regarding recovery coaching. We would like to host an event with Lee-Anne, and would like an indication of interest from our clients. Please email kerryn@charteredlegacy.co.za